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  If you could leave the truth again what would you do differently?

  by usualusername in

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  if you could leave the truth again what would you do differently?.

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  Left in the Cold

  I would have never ever told the elders such personal things about myself and others. I get very angry about this when I think about it. I would have told them to go to hell, DA myself, and live with the man I felt pressured to marry. Try having your first year and a half of marriage DF'd (both) with is Mother not speaking to him. There were other reasons we divorced, but I wonder sometimes if things would have turned out differently for us without all the pressure. I think it might have.

  i got off topic, didn't I? Sorry.
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  My mother passed away this morning...

  by Tatiana in

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  for any old-school ex-jws here that remember my many posts about my abusive jw mother and my sister committing suicide because of it...she passed away this morning because she began to bleed out and refused a transfusion.

  she had been in the hospital for a month.

  it appears she suffered a stroke and wasn't found by the brothers & sisters for three days (they missed her at the meetings).

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  I'm very sorry for what you are going through. I know it's the furthest thing from your mind, but get an attorney. If your mother had life insurance, those funds will most likely need to go toward burial cost and, as her eldest child, you are next of kin. Also, wills are not iron clad. Speak to an attorney who can advise you on what you need to do. It's a terrible thing to deal with while you're grieving, but it cannot be ignored. Especially with your uncle acting the way he's acting.

  My grandfather passed 3 years ago. I watched my mother deal with everything. She had an attorney. Defiantly consider getting one. Again, I'm very sorry.
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  My son's heart is broken

  by ruderedhead in

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  i'm sure someone here has experienced this before.

  please help me help my son.

  his wife of 15 months told him last night that she needs her space, that what she wanted 1 year ago isn't the same as what she wants now.

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  Left in the Cold

  I'm just going to be honest. I left my first husband of 10 years for another man. I strongly feel that your son's wife has likely found another person. It happens. The shame of it all is in her not telling him. I'm not proud of what I did, but I told my husband pretty much right away that I found someone else and no longer loved him. (I mean I told him after things became physical with the other man.) It's very sad, but it happens everyday. I can tell you that the "other man" absolutely broke my heart. I ended up knowing exactly how I had made my first husband feel. Karma? Idk.

  As his mother, please educate yourself on the difference between the grief of losing a spouse and major depression. If you see signs of major depression please urge him to get help. Even 'talk' therapy can go a long way. But I think right now that's what I would be most concerned about. His mental health and state of mind. You're a great mom!
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  Black Tie etiquette.

  by Slidin Fast in

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  ok. it's 12:30 in england, i have to go to bed but i just wanted to throw this one in.. i went to a jw funeral yesterday.

  not one black tie in the whole congregation.

  no witness would dream of wearing a black tie to a funeral.

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  Left in the Cold

  I believe close family should wear black. Others may certainly wear black as well, but other darker color (navy, maroon, etc.) are okay. Red is never, ever okay. When my grandmother passed in 2004, I needed to buy my mother a dress so I did researched this very thing. I'm in the U.S. other countries might be different. Also, IMO Queen Victoria took the whole mourning thing very far. She wore black for the rest of her life.
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  Watchtower CD

  by NeverKnew in

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  how does a person (non-jw) outside the organization get this cd the wt publishes?

  how much does it cost?.

  note: i'm not asking how much it's worth.

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  Left in the Cold

  Well, I found mine. It's 2009, but I guess no one needs it now.
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  Watchtower CD

  by NeverKnew in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  how does a person (non-jw) outside the organization get this cd the wt publishes?

  how much does it cost?.

  note: i'm not asking how much it's worth.

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  Left in the Cold

  Hi neverknew, I believe I have the 2008 or 2009 CD. I've downloaded it on my laptop and don't need the disk or want it anymore. If I lost all the info on my laptop I don't really care. Let me look for it. If the version I have is of interest to you, pm me. I'll be checking back later today. That's if you're interested.
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  HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ME!

  by cobaltcupcake in

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  in 1972 when my father dragged my family into the jws he pretty much cut off our extended family.

  i haven't seen most of them for 30 or 40 years.

  recently, thanks to facebook, i've found my family, and this year i'm traveling to maine for my first family thanksgiving in 40 years!.

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  Left in the Cold

  Oh good! Have a great time!
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  Has the WT ever apologized for changing their stance on something?

  by Left in the Cold in

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  i'm in the middle of reading coc.

  it's very eye opening.

  but on thinking about how the gb finally changed their stance on allowing civil service instead of prison when a christian was face with military service, it makes me wonder if the wt ever apologizes for any reversal of beliefs it imposes?

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  Left in the Cold

  Thanks. I guess if you're wrong about the end of the world probably you ought to 'regret' it. I was born in after 75. I was always told whenever the topic came up, which was rare, that some Witnesses started thinking 1975 was the end of the world. Many lost their faith when it did not come to fruition. I also was told that the WT did not support this idea ever. That it was just some idea the some Witnesses created. I'm finding that not to be the case really. It's kind of shocking. I wonder how many people (like I did) just think it was a rouge group of zealots coming up with their own idea of the end.
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  Has the WT ever apologized for changing their stance on something?

  by Left in the Cold in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i'm in the middle of reading coc.

  it's very eye opening.

  but on thinking about how the gb finally changed their stance on allowing civil service instead of prison when a christian was face with military service, it makes me wonder if the wt ever apologizes for any reversal of beliefs it imposes?

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  Left in the Cold

  I'm in the middle of reading CoC. It's very eye opening. But on thinking about how the GB finally changed their stance on allowing civil service instead of prison when a Christian was face with military service, it makes me wonder if the WT EVER apologizes for any reversal of beliefs it imposes? I can't remember any, but I thought maybe someone on here with more time in and more knowledge might know of an apology somewhere. Idk why it matters to me. I just am curious. Also, I mean really from the time the GB was invented til now. Thank you!
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  Don't tread on my dreams

  by Xanthippe in

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  favourite poem anyone?.

  here's some of mine.

  had i the heavens' embroidered cloths,.

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  Left in the Cold

  I meant to add, though, that its very exciting for me when other people enjoy poetry, too. I don't think many do today. I like this thread. Oh, I forgot Millay. Love her.